Anonymous said: I'm a 15 year old lesbian, but before I came out I had sex with a guy but have never had sex with a girl. Would that make me something like a half virgin? Or just not a virgin?
Do you consider tat as a real experience that helped you grow as a person? It is personal, who you have sex with, and what your v-card label is. Virginity is a social structure, not something that has a huge role in things. Virginity is not all black-and-white like people want it to be.
The way I define virginity is this: if you’ve had sex, not a virgin. Not had sex, virgin. That way it is applicable to all people, all genders, all types of sex (anal, vaginal, PIV (penis into vagina), oral (female), oral (male), etc).
As long as you are honest with medical professionals about who you’ve had sex with, you can use whatever you want. If you consider yourself a virgin, then you can use that. If not, don’t worry about it.
Here is another good article on virginity
Anonymous said: Hello, is demigirl the same as tomboy?Or am I wrong?
Tomboy: A girl who dresses and sometimes behaves the way boys are expected to, often into more masculine things like ”stronger” sports, computers, or cars. Stereotypically wears jeans, baseball caps, and denim vests/jackets. (from urban dictionary)
Demigirl: identifies slightly or partially as female/with feminine identities.
One could argue that they are similar, but the same, I don’t know. I don’t want to say YES then have a bunch of demigirls after me for being wrong.
A tomboy can identify as 100% girl, but still have the masculine things like sports, cars, jeans, etc. A demigirl is one who identifies as partially female.
Anonymous said: I'm a 21 girl and I'm probably gay but i can't accept it, I can't even say it out loud. The fact is that I'm not omophobic at all with others but I can't accept me being gay. :(
There is a lot of internalized homophobia going on, it sounds like. Sometimes it is hard to come out to ourselves - it takes a lot of work to finally say “i’m gay” or “i’m bisexual” or “i’m transgender”, etc. Sometimes we need to enlist the help of a gender and sexualities therapist - a sexologist would be a good person to look for help with. They can help you come to terms with and accept yourself.
I wish you luck.
Black background, white people cutouts in a string. In the middle you can see a person who is standing there, a scissors on the ground. Looks like they cut themselves free of the boring people. The person in the middle is blue/pink/white/pink/blue of the transgender pride flag.
Anonymous said: Do you know a good and cheap/free place to get a binder? I'm bigender and been having a lot of guy days (I'm afab) and really need one it I'm tight on money....
You can check out the places for ftm’s to get one for free - i’ve heard of non-binary folks getting one sometimes.
There is also a tutorial here to sew your own if you’re crafty like that.
Ebay is iffy, i’ve heard. Hudson’s guide has a section on where to buy binders and what type for which body.
Anonymous said: Do you have any ideas on how to request/set up an lgbt support club in a school ( I go to a public middle school. )
Take a look at gsanetwork.org. They’ll walk you through the steps, who to talk to at your school, what to say to them, etc. There are also ‘groups’ per state as well.
the most important thing to me ever is bi kids knowing that it’s ok to be 10% attracted to women and 90% attracted to men or 10% attracted to men and 90% attracted to women and still feeling ok to identify as bi, and still feeling like their identity is valid, and still feeling like they can lead fulfilling lives with both (or other) genders. like that’s just so fricking important.
Anonymous said: I have a legitimate question that is going to sound really ignorant. Pardon me. But how do pansexuals exist? There are only two genders, male or female, whichever someone identifies with. If they don't identify with either (which I understand and respect), when you go to introduce them or file paper work, it's boiled down to one or the other. So theoretically and legally, there are only two genders. If this is so, how is pansexuality legitimate? I'm sorry for my ignorance
You’re seeming to confuse gender with sex.
Sex is whats in your pants. Penis, Vagina, some combination of the two (usually an intersex condition). That refers to the boxes ( ) M ( ) F you mark on a form.
Gender is in your brain. Its how you identify. Thats how you can have a person with a penis who identifies as a female, or as agender, or Two Spirit, or genderfluid, or a whole host of things - because the stuff in your pants has no bearing on whats in your brain.
Pansexuality is legit because they’re attracted to the person, not to what gender or sex the person is. Not saying that everyone else is attracted to people because of their gender. Pansexuals are just attracted to people of all genders.
Hey hey hey yo person.
I don’t want to be a dick bit pretty pls don’t say pansexuality means being attracted to the person, not the gender or sex.
It’s being attracted to all of them. You could include both, but please try not to use just the first one in your answer. Thanks!!
I get different definitions from different people, sorry. so it’s attraction to all gender/sexes/persons?
I have a tendency to say both things when I explain it to my friends, but yeah. How I define it for myself is attraction to all genders/sexes instead of one or two or whatever.
Thanks! Always learning - you guys keep me on my toes so i can better answer questions. THANKS SO MUCH :D
Emily, in our facebook inbox, is wondering if any of you allies have found yourself crushing on or in love with your gay friends. We know that gay people falling in love with their straight friends is rather common, but how common is the reverse?
Anonymous said: I was wondering if there were any insurance companies that would cover t-blockers or hormones or if there were a place to get them cheap
Not that I am aware of. It really depends on what your doctor or endo codes your visits and meds as. Some doctors/endo’s are nice, others don’t do it in the nicest ways. And yeah, theres ways to get them cheap, but i do not recommend it - you need to be under a doctors watch the entire time, getting blood work done, etc.